Wednesday, April 30, 2014

Piercing Blue Eyes

CadenI wrote this poem for Caden a few years ago. Maybe it best sums up why I continue to spend so much energy on Autism Awareness each and every April.  No matter who or where you are in life, watching your child struggle is difficult.  In the moment of those tears and struggles, you don't care about the politics surrounding an official diagnosis or even what official name the struggles are being given.  You want, as a parent, to help your child find happiness.  Sometimes though the problem is that we are using our own perceptions to define happiness for another person; sometimes finding happiness means trying to look at the world through your child's eyes.  There's a time and place for therapy and services but there's also something very real, very necessary, and very special about relating to your child at whatever point they are at in a way that they understand and communicate.  I've learned so much about the world since I started trying to see it through Caden's beautiful blue eyes.  




Perfect baby boy born one early morn
A smile for his parents
His big sister’s best friend
Perfect boy with piercing blue eyes

That perfect boy did grow
A crawl became a run
A babble soon was the word mum
Perfect boy with piercing blue eyes

On an early morning bright
The words stopped
And the smiles were no more
Perfect boy with piercing blue eyesCaden

With day came fears hidden in the sun’s shadows
And at night the monsters found their way on moon beams
Tears, tears, and more tears
Perfect boy with piercing blue eyes

Days, weeks, and months
The doctor’s fateful decree
Trapped in a lonely world
Perfect boy with piercing blue eyes

That perfect boy did grow
Lines became letters
A gesture or look could say it all
Perfect boy with piercing blue eyes

On an early morning bright
We began to spin, flap, and dance
That boy, his sister, and his parents
Perfect boy with piercing blue eyes

Joined together again
Without a word ever spoken
A smile and lonely no more
Perfect boy with piercing blue eyes